'no calls'

You say you don't like people who feel the need to kick others while they're down but that is EXACTLY what you're doing. You're also doing exactly what I said you'd do: Put words in my mouth.

A wall-of-words makes your posts nearly unreadable. Learn to break them up if you want people to actually read what you are clearly putting some effort into.


"I am sure your grief is just "oh so precious". Do you like that?"

Yes, yes I do. Though I never said a thing about "oh-so-precious" grief. That's just you projecting your own *beep* onto me ;). Just like when you throw absolutes like "if you really did care about your fiance you'd be doing X" when, as you have said at least three times before "you don't know *beep* about me"

You excuse your taking of every single person who disagrees with you as a personal slight and bringing up your own personal stuff, and using that as an excuse to belittle, insult, tell people they are cussing at you when it is YOU cussing at them (putting-words-in-others-mouths syndrome).....In this post I have both read "I don't care what happened to your fiance and you don't care what happened to my dad" to talking about the importance of compassion. You're all over the place.

You completely minimized someone else's grief who said they just lost a cousin by saying "well that isn't your dad so it's not the same and I feel worse than you" (paraphrased, it's right on your "spoiled brats" threat on the "Silver Linings" board)

So when I saw this post, I was rather astounded by the sheer hypocrisy not only in your past thread, but this thread as well. Where you pretend you aren't some mean, insultin, belittling person who uses her own pain to diminish that of others while being so self-absorbed you cannot acknowledge any points of contention or general disagreement into your insights. EVERY time I've seen someone disagree with you, you started playing the pain-game ("I'm in more pain than you! Therefore it excuses all of my behavior!" which there IS nuance to that. I'm fully aware of that, having experienced tremendous loss in my life as well, like TENS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ON HERE)

I was raped and sexually tortured at age 8-9, so badly that I lost a testicle because of it. You cannot begin to understand that kind of pain, to have somethin that sensitive dying inside you at such a young age, while being raped and being forced to have sex with other children on camera. I have PTSD, severe anxiety and depression as well. Yet the only time I brin this type of *beep* up is when someone else pulls out their personal baggage solely for the purpose of diminishing other people's opinions. It's *beep* My pain or your pain doesn't mean we get a free pass to throw out our personal baggage and garbage to the whole world and expect everyone to eat it up and not say one word of disagreement about it!

You use you're grief as a way to get out of admitting you were wrong. I used my grief to illustrate the fact that myself and millions of other people are going through just as much if not worse. (in fact, 25,000 children will die of starvation within 24 hours of this post, worldwide.) Women and men and children will be raped, killed, tortured, slaughtered. Silver Linings was a beautiful story because it delved into such issues so expertly and all you could take away from it was "They're spoiled brats" but in a similar show, focusing solely on a female who has a disorder similar to yours, suddenly it's a great movie that you can relate to, fine. That's fine. But to put down other people for disagreeing with you and then say "Well, I was grieving! So that excuses my behavior" is just wrong, IF you are truly in a better place you should be able to say something alon the lines of "I was absorbed into my own grief, I took it out on strangers online, and took it out on other people. I told other people I don't give a *beep* about their pain multiple times, while exasperating my own pain by continuously brining it up to those very same people. I am ashamed of that behavior and I apologize"

Now THAT would be real and brave of you to do.

Furthermore, you need to be seeking a support group, not posting this kind of stuff (same goes for me) on here. There are great support groups that you can have skype meetings with, or forum and chat meetings with, or meetings outside of the internet. But coming to IMDB of all places and using your personal loss as a way to critique not just the movie (which is fine) but others who disagree with you who are going throuh something similar (not cool at all, and it is rather revealing into your character), while diminishing their pain by essentially saying they should acknowledge what you are going through, but when they bring up their own personal baggage your response has been (every single time) to say "I don't care about your pain, I AM IN PAIN!" is immature, shortsighted, self-abosrbed and outright rude. SOME of it is excusable, but after 2-3 months, and you being an adult, and talking about other people being spoiled brats, you sure act like a spoiled brat yourself.

Which is exactly why I see you get met with so much resistance on these topics. Maybe you should ask yourself WHY that is happening, hmm?

(I've also seen you track down other people and respond to them via your sock account and this one, so don't pull the "stalker" *beep* with me. The point I made in my post was both valid on this board and on Silver Linings, especially since you directly mentioned this very movie on there!)

PS: I don't expect you to respond to me in any other way then your usual flavor of "*beep* you, I don't care about your problems, and how dare you talk to me that way!" attitude. But I would love to be proven wrong and surprised, pleasantly.

PPS: The pain-game contest is NEVER a good one to play. There will always be someone out there that will "out-pain" you. In this case I'd say that what happened to me as a child, and me losing the love of my life, my twin sister, and best friend in a period of a year would, in your contest-of-pain game mentality, would make me the "winner." Which is *beep* pathetic that you would even look at it that way. And don't deny that you don't, you literally just did in your post, and on your "Spoiled Brats" thread. (go ahead and see my replies there, and other people's recent replies, then look at your responses to some of the other people who lost loved ones and your "i've been through more, so I don't care" attitude...It's all there in writing, not going anywhere, unless you delete them)