Can beauty be a curse?

That's a pretty catty remark. I have seen overweight women say mean things about beautiful women, but I have also heard pretty women say horrible things about other pretty women because they dislike people that they see as competition. It is no better to say mean things about a woman because she is "ugly" than to say mean things about a woman because she is "beautiful."

I suppose that tall women should be grateful to short women for "subsidizing" their extra fabric?

And by the way, plenty of size 16 women are not remotely "fat." And while plenty of small-framed women look good and are healthy at a size 2, curvy Malena must be at least a size 8. Beauty comes in many sizes.

Very true. I know a girl who has been harassed by men and boys of all ages from a young teenager to a woman is still being chatted up all the time. This has caused her to make a lot of stupid decisions relationship wise and of course she has to deal with catty women.

I asked her once if she had the chance to be born a little plainer, so as to have had a more peaceful life, and she simply said no. She understood the pros and cons of being an object of desire for men and she knows how to use it to her advantage. She knows it gave her opportunities in life that she would never of had otherwise. The way she deals with women now is to be overly nice - showing almost pathological kindness all the time as a way of "making up" for the way she turns heads.

But like universaldennis said, it's a curse that most people would want, because being human, we open more doors to the beautiful...

totally awesome answer, sir/mam.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKAb-VOit0Q

In modern times beautiful women can still be negatively judged, slut shamed, gossiped about and are more likely to be sexually harassed. Good looking women are more likely to attract users who want them as arm candy, rather than caring about them. I've known plenty of cases where people assume a woman is successful at anything it must be because she used her looks. There's even been some cases in the news about women dismissed from their jobs or asked to get off public transport because they were too "distracting" and stopped men from doing their jobs properly. Of course there are plenty of up sides to beauty as well, but it works both ways.

I don't completely agree about Malena being kept and reclusive. She was only reclusive because she was shunned by the town. She tried to get a job, so wasn't really kept. At the very least she was no more kept than it was normal for a woman to be at that time. She was actually a very strong woman in her own way. She despite being shunned, losing her husband and father, being violated by her lawyer, being impoverished, starved and forced into prostitution she held herself together and kept her head high. Only after being so viciously beaten did she leave town. That shows a great deal of strength. To be able to walk back into town after everything that happened also shows a great deal of bravery. Even though she was demure, she also always had a subtle kind of defiance about her.