"Don't be a prick!" makes no sense

So Leonard and his loving wife (?) are having a relationship-typical conversation. Leonard is curious and slightly confused, hoping that his wife can satisfy his curiosity (if nothing else) and clear his confusion.

Instad, the wife accuses him of being a prick and uses shaming language and a very hostile tone to 'control the situation'.

Why doesn't the wife simply clarify the question? All Leonard wants is INFORMATION. Why would he ask a question just to 'be a prick'? It's very insulting to not only be TOLD what to be or what not to be, but to also imply that you ARE, in fact, being a prick, and the wife has the authority stop him.

All he did was ask some questions.

Why is asking questions considered a crime in this world, even in movies? Why doesn't the wife simply EXPLAIN why it's possible to read the same book multiple times and still enjoy it every time?

Maybe the book is special and uniquely written, and thus, since you can't remember every single word of a book you have read once, you can enjoy the clever dialogue or interesting writing again. Of course you are not going to enjoy the story that much, because you know it already, but perhaps she's enjoying OTHER aspects of it, having forgotten exactly how some intricacies worked or what the characters said or how some situations were described in beautiful, unique detail, painting an image in your imagination.

You can watch the same TV show or movie again ("Yes, Minister", "The Naked Gun" for examples) and find new details and intricacies that you didn't spot the first or even second time.

I don't think it's AS true for books, but I am sure that is a factor.

Instead of having a civil, friendly conversation about how all this works, explaining it the way I am explaining it in this post, the wife just instantly shoots hostile verbal arrows at the man she supposedly loves. Why isn't he allowed to be interested in how she thinks, why she finds something fun, her character, her joys and so on?

Why can't he ask loving questions and be confused about seemingly illogical actions the wife takes? Why doesn't the wife have sympathy for the perspective of 'doing the same thing over and over again seems redundant and pointless'?

She should understand it looks weird when she keeps reading the same thing over and over again. It could be a health concern, perhaps she's losing her memory or getting some kind of brain disease?

Yet, men are never allowed to even ask questions without INSTANTLY being insulted as being 'pricks' or 'dicks' or whatnot.

Look at someone in 'War Games' forum saying some number and then 'Reasons why David is a Prick'. I responded with '20 Reasons why Jennifer is a C*nt', but THAT post was deleted, although it was the same, exact thing, but genders reversed.

Granted, 'prick' sounds more 'socially acceptabe' way of attacking a man based on male genitalia, but there's no equally mild word for attacking a woman based on female genitalia, so I had to use the dreaded C-word (why are people so afraid of words? I don't get it).

I was making salient, logical points, showing that Jennifer is WAY worse a human being and character and even a friend, than David ever was at his worst in that movie. Yet, my post was deleted, because HOW DARE YOU criticize something has an inbuilt V-genitalia.

Sigh.. this world makes no sense, but at least the movies could, but don't.

Lenny should've quit that relationship right then an there. If the wife is not capable of having a friendly discussion about a CLEARLY caring man's concerns about her activities, interests, their relationship, etc. without instantly shooting an insult at him, she's definitely not wife material!

So them even being married at this point makes no sense.

Leonard was not being a prick, he was just confused and puzzled, and wanted some answers. Instead, he got insults, because men can't ask questions about women.

It makes no logical sense, but perhaps it makes fema-fascist, matriarchal sense.