Or your ex's new love? Kim's attitude toward Julianne just makes me wonder how most people feel about this. Does it just depend on the nature of the relationships? Do you think it's normal or do you think there's something weird about it?
shareno definitely not.
I wouldn't have even had her at the wedding, never mind maid of honour!!
id have just said 'no Michael, shes not coming, its inappropriate!!'
I am friends with one of my husband's exes. It's a bit of a unique situation, though. The ex in question is his best friend's sister, so she wasn't just going to disappear when they broke up. They split up in 1998, and then they both moved away. By the time they ended up back in their hometown, they had both moved on, and did not think of each other in "that way." I've only been with my husband for about two years (we just got married a couple of weeks ago). She has been with her current husband for quite a while, and they have 2 kids together. Honestly, out of all my husband's friends, I get along with her (and her husband) the best. They are great people.
Now, would I want to meet and hang out with all of his exes? Definitely not. There is a 9 year age gap between us, and I know that I was just a child in 1998 (I'm 29). It's not like he and I would've ever met, let alone dated during the time period he was with her. I was 27 when I met him, so no big deal! He told me right when I met her that they used to date/live together, but neither of them thought of the other one in that way anymore.
As far as the movie goes, I think that Kimmy was definitely jealous, but she knew that Julianne was his best friend. She wanted her approval. So, I can see why Kim was acting that way. She was a bit over the top, but it was understandable.
"Without surgery, a person in your condition will have a severe case of deadness." -Scrubs
My best friend is an ex and whenever we start dating someone new, we always introduce them. We knew that romance wasn't working for us, but our friendship is perfect. None of my boyfriends have minded this, because they know I have no romantic feelings towards him anymore, and none of his gorlfriends have minded for the same reason.
"Oh my God! You put a living room where the crack den used to be!"
I was in that situation. I was the ex. My ex and I were at the time, still good friends. When he got involved with his new girl, I was excited for him. So when she and I (appeared to me) to become friends, I was happy. I even stood up as a bridesmaid in his wedding. Unfortunately, she turned out to not be who I thought she was, later on, and now none of us speak to each other (and I found out that they divorced several years ago) but at the time, I was perfectly happy being friends with the both of them.
I think that it can be perfectly normal for an ex to be friends with both the ex and his/her new significant other. I think that it just depends upon the overall maturity of the people involved. In all honesty, if you are friends with your ex, why shouldn't you be friends with the new person in their life and be happy for them? Further, why should the new person be jealous of the ex? It doesn't make sense to me. The exes are no longer romantically involved, and never will be. They are friends, so there is no reason for the new love to feel threatened if they are secure enough about themselves. It is only an insecure person who would feel threatened or jealous of an ex.
I am probably amongst a minority that wanted Julianne to get him in the end. Him and Jules made more sense to me, it would have been lovely to see two best friends of nearly a decade finally get together. Jules loved Michael for who he was, she didn't want to try and change him like Kimmy did.
The saddest thing of all is, Jules lost Michael for good after this. Once you get married, you can't have a best friend of the opposite sex in your life. It's disrespectful to your spouse and no longer appropriate. So Michael and Jules would have been pretty much over. Unless she planned on being best friends with them both, which is never gonna happen when you're in love with the guy.
My husband's mom is friends with his dad's ex wife. She's at every holiday with us, and she was at our wedding, sitting at the same table. It would be weird for me personally, but I think it's nice that they get along.
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