Patheticly One Sided

Oh poor men. Boo-hoo.

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I really don't understand this.

Man marries woman. They both work, their careers grow, they both start to earn more money. They start a family. They decide woman will stay home with the kids, why not they can afford it. Years go by.

Now here there are variations. Maybe he earns lots of money. They are very comfortable, maybe even very rich. She takes care of the household, kids, cooks dinner every night. They go golfing together, play tennis at the club. Meet friends on the weekends. Travel. Then he starts to get bald. And fat. Maybe she starts to get a little thick in the waist. She has a few wrinkles.

He starts noticing young beautiful women everywhere he goes. They notice his platinum Amex card. He starts going out less with his wife and more with "the guys". He starts noticing that he has stress from the office and things he likes to talk about (work) that his wife knows nothing about. He is now in a full blown midlife crisis. He is prime pickings for an affair with a younger woman.

His wife didn't "do anything wrong". She just doesn't know how to communicate with him now. She has a hard time understanding his stress. He has a hard time understanding that running a house and raising kids can be a full-time job (unless you have a staff).

Then of course, there's the young, beautiful secretary/assistant at work, who just understands him so much better than his wife.

Believe me, communication breakdowns happen between two people, but when two people share a life together, you work to mend the problem. With help if necessary. You don't do a trade-in because you are bored.

No matter what the situation, it sucks to get traded for a newer model. Whether it happens to a man or a woman. Unfortunately, I would agree that this happens much more frequently to women than to men.

To each their own...opinion

In reality over half of all marriages end in divorce, and about 75% of all divorces are initiated by women. So the great majority of the members of the "First Wives Club" are there through actions they initiated, not because they were dumped by selfish, oafish, sex crazed husbands.

There also been a huge change in the past two generation with respect to adultery. 50 years ago it was disapproved of in both sexes, but tacitly tolerated in males so long as they were discreet and avoided scandal or publicly humiliating their wives. Today there's moral outrage if a man is caught cheating, and it is far more extreme than the reactions to female infidelity. "People" magazine (heavily marketed toward brain damaged American housewives) has a whole genre of covers on female "victims" of men. The irony is that many of these "victims" (Meg Ryan, for example, who has vied with Princess Diana and Jennifer Aniston for the largest number of "People" covers) had affairs that precipitated the break up of their marriages. Another irony is that this film included a cameo appearance by Kathie Lee Gifford, who underneath her hyper-religious Christian posturing is actually a hussy who displaced the first Mrs Gifford.