Let's be honest, this really doesn't hold up after all these years.
Don't get me wrong - I was a big fan of this movie when it first came out. I thought that ANY LGBTQ representations on film was progress in 1996. And the dinner scene for its time was risqué and button pushing. The movie is really built around Nathan Lane who oftentimes is very funny, but also very grating with all the screaming. I mean, he LOSES it after the car horn goes off. Come on.
There are definitely some funny moments (Hank Azaria, *beep* the shrimp, Hackman in drag). But just moments. I recently bought this on blu-ray and watched it again and I was struck at how much the film feels dated. The actual "funny" lines just don't hit the same way they used to and the film has lost a lot of its "edginess" over the years. Why in the world is it rated R?!! It is so tame now.
The worst thing of all though is the son Val. He is absolutely the biggest douche and I find it hard to suspend disbelief that Armand and Albert would put up with him. After all, wasn't Val raised by two gay men? Around tons of gay people? In Miami? Sure, he comes around at the end, but he put the two people that raised him through hell. And why? Because his straight (too young) marriage to Ally McBeal was more important than his true family? Ugh.
Finally...Bob Dole is not gorgeous. ;-)