Cubby: I have a few things to say about your post.
First of all, When you say "Gay people don't bother me (except really angry lesbians)," not only are you not only qualifying this statement to make it not true about yourself anymore, but you are also categorizing people. I don't think that "really angry lesbians" is actually a sexual orientation identity. Why would only be bothered by really angry lesbians? Why not also have these same feeling toward really angry gay men or really angry straight people?
Secondly, no, it isn't enough that you "tolerate homosexuality." And, you have missed an entire step between "tolerate" and "endorse." You could try by accepting it as a reality of this world. To tolerate something means that you are not OK with it, but you aren't going to do anything to stop it. For example, I tolerate the people who come into my office with chewing tobacco in their mouth and spit into a bottle while they are talking to me. I'm not OK with it, but I don't ask them to stop. If I were to accept this, I would know that it's going on in my office, but not be annoyed by it. I would notice that the person in my office is spitting into a bottle but think it's a perfectly normal activity. Were I to endorse it, I would be passing out chewing tobacco and bottle, or participating in the activity myself, or asking the people in my office if they would like to chew or spit. So going back to the beginning of this paragraph, no, it's not enough that you tolerate it. There are people in this world with sexual orientations other than straight, so if you want to keep your "homosexual friends" (as you phrased it), you should learn to accept them for who they are rather than tolerate them in spite of it.
FInally, you say that you felt that "Ellen" dealt with gay issues on every episode. Don't most shows with no gay characters deal with straight issues? Take the show "Friends," for example (a show that I LOVE). Joey's main focus is finding a girl to sleep with. Chandler and Ross also spend a lot of time thinking about this. Phoebe exploits sexual politics by being aggressive with men (and sometimes making passes at women, but even still, ends up with a man). Rachel and Monica struggle to find ways to win men over. At the point when a gay person is first coming out, like Ellen's character was in this show, learning what that means can consume the gay person's life. There is a whole new freedom where dating is something gay people want to do because they can finally feel comfortable. Right after coming out, a gay person must learn to balance society's expectations of how they are to be with who they want to be. It's entirely logical that it will consume that person's entire life, like it did for Ellen on the show.
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