Getting in trouble is part of being a kid, part of growing up and part of learning that there are consequences for one's choices. It's part of learning how to tell right from wrong even in new situations.
Had the mom said, "Go raise all the he(ck) you want and you'll not be punished or held accountable no matter what you do or whom you hurt," that would have been permission to do anything to anyone without getting into any trouble for doing so.
"Get in trouble," meant go out and be a kid and make some of those minor screw-ups most of us did as kids, and learned from as kids, before we were old enough and big enough to inflict serious damage in society.
Sure, let the kid be an egghead holed up in his room, having never met and made friends or learned how to evaluate and screen out the ones who are only going in the wrong direction.
Then set him loose when he's 18 or 21 and expect him to know how to take care of himself, how to choose friends who can have fun and raise some he(ck) without killing anyone or putting others at risk for death or serious harm, how to decide, "No, this one will not end well; I think I'll go hang out with someone else while you idiots destroying your own lives as well as others' lives," when his buddies are planning something stupid and/or dangerous.
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