overall this is a rough movie to really get people judgements right, and maybe that is the coolest part about it. everyone can see the characters differently and that is always okay.
I feel like the push against her is outside the movie: women just give up, run to a lawyer, ruin the family and take half of everything he has worked for. note the uncomfortable "He never hit me, just SEEMED like he could."
in the justice system, you don't sue someone and take half of their income for life, just because YOU FEEL LIKE they might get into a fight with you. If they punch you, yeah, you have a case.... not so with divorce.
"La de dah la de dah... I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today... I can do or say whatever I want, divorce you and fucking RUIN you just because I FEEL like it." That's fucked up.
Movies consist of people making poor choices, doing bad things, and d-fens flipping out seemed like a pretty typical reaction to his family getting ripped apart, his precious daughter yanked away, the mom moving on while taking HALF of his lively hood.
This is proven daily in the paper [and hinted at near the very end of the movie] when you hear about some father shooting his wife and then himself. Don't you ever wonder what the hell could make someone do that? There ya go, watch this movie.
We can thank "FAMILY LAW"* for all these very antihuman, unnatural responses.
* More like Family destruction for profit. Isn't there more money is slicing a family up, rather than working to keep it together? I do think so.
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Patman111196 (1789)
10 months ago
I get what you are saying, and she does admit the judge pressured her into the restraining order by saying "Let's make an example of him". But a lot of people really seem to act like he's done absolutely nothing wrong at all when it was established he was a temperamental and moody nutcase before the divorce. Many seem to think she's the direct cause of his mental breakdown, when he did a lot that he doesn't attribute to himself. Also, I feel that him wanting to see his kid was far more for selfish reasons than simply wanting to wish her a happy birthday. Just ask to talk to her on the phone and send the bday present in the mail. That apparently wasn't enough for him.
On top that, I've noticed that quite a few people tend to put the whole situation in a "Woman vs. Man" perspective when the film wasn't about gender roles at all. I guess that's because it would be more of a thing today.
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