Was Dee Victimized By Mack?
The first paragraph gives my background with (and reaction to) the movie. Some readers may want to skip that paragraph. The rest of this post gives my thoughts on the character Dee; I'd love reactions to that topic.
BACKGROUND:
I saw this movie when it came out and just finished re-watching it. I gotta say, I expected to write it off as pretentious and smug from what I remembered (not that I thought it was at the time, but I've changed a lot since my youth, and I now find many of the things I used to like to be pretentious and smug; I was positive this would be one of them). I was pleasantly surprised to see that it was much better than I expected. Sure, there was stuff to take with a grain of salt. For instance, everybody was a crime victim? Even though most lived in good neighborhoods? C'mon. I've lived in LA all my life (51 years). I've been the victim of two violent crimes (one, while I lived in a bad neighborhood). However, I'm an exception in my circle of friends and family (white and Latino, lower- to upper-middle class) because not one other person I know (not one!) has ever been the victim of a violent crime. So, puh-lease with the rampant LA crime. Anyway, despite a few eye rolls, I thought this was a pretty good film.
TOPIC:
Now to my topic. Even though my viewings of the film are 20 years apart, both times I had the same reaction to Dee's speech to Mack: what a bunch of crap! By that, I don't mean the writing; I mean the character's POV.
Who the heck is this broad trying to fool? Mack never lied to her, Jane told her exactly what would happen, and she herself claimed that she knew the score and didn't expect anything unrealistic. She went into the one-night stand with her eyes wide open and with full knowledge of the situation. Now suddenly she wants to guilt out Mack? Please know that I'm not justifying what he did. He was a bum to cheat on his wife. But he in no way victimized Dee. It was mutual.
Everything happened just as she was told (and said she knew) it would, but suddenly she's playing the role of an injured party. She's just a little brat who doesn't want to accept responsibility for her actions. While she was right in saying that there were men out there who would treat her as a woman should be treated, it is only true if she behaves the way a woman should behave.
Btw, I think the film exhibited class in not showing the one-night stand onscreen. I also think Mary-Louise Parker did an excellent job in her role as Dee. But both times I watched this movie, my strongest reaction was to that scene, and I am curious if most people agree with my reaction or if many people bought into Dee's pass-the-buck baloney.
So, please, post your thoughts on Dee's dressing down of Mack. Thanks in advance.
Saulisa
Logic is our best defense against The Experts.