Questions!!

1. He says, “from under the mattress”. It is impossible that anyone of his disposition every arrived at financial independence through anything other than dumb luck. It takes more attitude than he has just to HANG ON to money. In the film, it isn’t mentioned, but he inherited it or won the lotto or some such, and it was enough to pay someone to manage it as well.

2. Just another example of how not fully in his body this guy is.

3. We don’t get to see her because she is not part of the current dramatic interplay. She represents his past, while Ann represents his future. The film is about his (and her) transition.

4. He says, "I can't. I mean - I can't because I won't". By saying this it seems that he isn't really addressing the impotence question at all. Whether he simply demurs, perhaps because he sees it as not relevant, or whether he retreats, because he is unwilling to address it, is not at all clear. But what he does seem to be indicating is that he wants her to sense that it is his UNWILLINGNESS that is the reason he is not going to bring her to an orgasm. He wants her to know that there are other more important reasons involved than his sexual potency. The questions of: in what way, under what circumstances, and on what basis he should become "intimate" with her, are priorities for him. This is his first declaration of love. He doesn't want her to suspect that, even for a moment, she would fall into the category of other women that he has had relations with in the past. I don't think that this is a cerebral based decision, but gut instinctive honesty. He won't, because he needs to get other things in order in his relation with her first, before it gets complicated or imperiled by some compulsive sexual encounter. This is actually the turning point in his return to "normalcy". He is more concerned about having a right relation to the beloved (Ann), than a subsidiary question of sexual responsiveness. It is precisely this "forgetting about himself" and wanting to be right with her that empowers him. For the first time in his life things are in alignment. There is a right regard for the other. She in no way undervalues his inward and sensitive nature, nor overlooks his awkward way of sublimating it (she says its "pathetic"). At the same time she opens herself up to him revealing a similarly shielded inwardness. This aspect of herself lay dormant and sheltered from the world of banal and superficial people that were her lot. In the final analysis, it would appear that these two characters who appeared to be the most dysfunctional got that way simply because there was no healthy stimulus or outlet for their more sensitive characteristics. Who was in their environment? We know about John because we plainly see his crudeness. He was either unaware or disinterested in the fact that Ann even had an orgasm - ever! What could he offer Ann? He was content to screw Ann’s sister in the same bed where they slept together as man and wife. And of course, her sister says she hopes to get off on that very fact. The mysterious Elizabeth, we find out, also slept with John, before Graham started having problems in the relationship. She was “great in bed” and was also calculating enough to be able to conceal it from Graham. Her relationship with Graham was deceptive, dishonest and totally on the surface. Meanwhile both Ann's superficial sister and self-centered husband, who at first appear to be the strong and stable ones, show themselves to be the most empty and pathetic in the end. I found it very interesting that, after her interview with Graham, Cynthia was in a fever pitch that she attempted to quell with John, but afterwards realized that John didn’t really touch her where Graham had – and Graham never laid a hand on her. Perhaps for the first time in her life Cynthia became aware of a deeper layer of experience that never had a chance to come out because she was always drowning it out with sensual stimulation.


(PRN) – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=id-bFpYQzXE

He can't or he won't? (Was he trying to stop himself from being unfaithful to his lost love and hence made up the whole impotency story?)
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There is no evidence that he lied about impotence or anything else.

He claimed to be able to give a woman an orgasm. That is not proof he was not impotent. I could spell it out if you really need me to.
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