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The moment that should have ended it.

posted 3 years ago by Rolltide (964)
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https://youtu.be/Y9CKhEZCNS8

We could make an issue of how these 2 people in a metropolitan area of 20 million just happened to bump into each other on 2 occasions. Once in the airport and on a plane and once in a book store.

Ok it's a movie but after the book store encounter they find some commonality with her being recently dumped and he getting divorced. They go out for something to eat and try to assuage each other's feelings.

As a result they find different things in each other and she is actually becoming attracted to him.

She asks him out. "Would you like to have dinner with me sometime?" How he responds has ended many relationships and could have ended this one. "Are we becoming friends now?"

The hurt and shocked look on her face says it all. Here she is all vulnerable and asks him out it seems he has no romantic interest in her. Would not be unusual for her to say never mind and move on.

Tell me what you think. He could have just said yes, should have just said yes. Why over analyze things?

[–] chilidoggg (14390) 3 years ago

"The hurt and shocked look on her face says it all."

I don't remember this. Interesting. I remember the scene and I remember it being very sweet in that Harry wasn't a total pig anymore.

[–] Obifuntoknowme (1144) 3 years ago

But that’s the whole point of the film isn’t it, its the main question - can two people of different gender be friends and nothing more ? Would sex get in the way ?

No way I’d of turned her down if she’d asked me lol.

Great film btw, one of my all time favourite comedies.

[–] StinkyPoopyPants (3140) 3 years ago

Now see I did not think she looked hurt at all. She was not feeling rejected either. She was surprised because he had stated emphatically that men and women could not be friends. She wasn't asking him out on a date.

[–] Rolltide (964) 3 years ago

It's at 1:40. Why didn't he just say sure, fine, great?

https://youtu.be/Y9CKhEZCNS8

[–] Rolltide (964) 3 years ago

What was different about Sally that she wanted nothing to do with Harry when she saw him years ago on the plane and could not get away from him fast enough and then this moment when she wants to have dinner with him?

[–] StinkyPoopyPants (3140) 3 years ago

I know the movie inside out, I've seen it a thousand times, lol. He's a funny guy and he was being funny and also showing her that he was wrong about what he said before. Someone else might see it as him making sure she wasn't asking him out on a date, who knows but at that point she was not asking him out on a date.

[–] Rolltide (964) 3 years ago

Of course she was asking him out on a date.

[–] Ripkens25 (2048) 3 years ago

I agree, she was. But I think it was more about testing the waters. This time around, they clicked. And Harry was all sorts of likable and charming--he clearly had matured in ways she found appealing. And his timing, appearing back in her life, was perfect. It was a spur of the moment thing for Sally to ask him....and I think she simply wanted to spend more time with him. But the fact that it was "dinner" that she was proposing....kinda tipped it more toward a date. But it very well could have been the next step in their friendship. I suppose the uncertainty as to her intentions....makes the scene even better. She may not have been 100% certain herself. I like that we're not certain either....(though we all WANT it to be a date). :)

[–] Rolltide (964) 3 years ago

I think he transformed in her eyes from cocky and self absorbed to vulnerable because of what happened with his marriage. Given that she was also dumped and vulnerable they had something in common.