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cute, but doesn't happen

posted 18 years ago by missygoldstein
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I saw this movie and thought it was very sweet. I thought ricki was adorable and positive and confident despite being large. She was determined and went after what she wanted. I admire and respect anyone that does that, but it's amovie. In the real world that would never happen. I'm sorry, but it's true. I've never even seen any couple anywhere on earth where the girl was over 200 pounds and the guy was gorgeous. While it's nice to fantacize that there are prince charmings out there who will look beyond the surface; the world WE live in is one where men 50, 60 and above chase young beautiful women all their lives.

[–] PiercedDiva 18 years ago

Missy,you are just talking about what YOU have seen there might be couples like that that you might not know about it's impossible to see everyone in the entire universe please be more open-minded. just because you haven't seen a bigger woman/gorgeous guy couple doesn't mean they don't exist

[–] MissMoonlight 18 years ago

yea, it happens, maybe not like the movie depicts, but anything is capable of happening.

Get out more.

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[–] Cloudburst2000 18 years ago

Actually, I've known it to happen. Not the actual situation in the movie of course, but I've known a good looking guy who picked an overweight girl over some really thin competition. The girl wasn't quite as large as Grace but close. Why did he pick her? Because he loved her. He was able to look past her weight issues. And an overwieght person can still look pretty. When Grace fixed herself up she was a pretty lady...overweight but pretty.

And I've also known the opposite to happen. In high school, the prettiest girl in school dated and eventually married a guy who was close to Grace's size.

Some people can look beyond appearances to see the person underneath.

[–] vileone777 18 years ago

Not sure what part of the world you live in but as others have said. ANYTHING can and does happen...

Looks are alot, but not everything....

P.S. There's nothing to be sorry about. Ignorance is everywhere...

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[–] falloutboy73 18 years ago

Actually a lot of guys prefer the plus size look. I happen to find it attractive. Also in recent years the average American woman is now size 14. So actually I see a lot of not overweight guys with plus size girls now. It's getting fairly common.

[–] jmlw_87 17 years ago

What I can't stand is how people keep saying "a gorgeous guy and an overweight girl." Being overweight does not automatically put you into the ugly or average category-- it just puts you in the overweight category. I'm a solid size 24 and believe me, I carry myself with confidence and grace, every day of my life.

I believe in my strengths, I know what I'm good at, that I'm intelligent and have a fantastic sense of humor, and I know that, frankly, I have a gorgeous face, and a lot of curves. I've never had trouble with dating, or men, and have always gotten who I wanted, when I wanted him.

It is ALL about confidence, and how you think of yourself. In my opinion, fat is not synonymous with ugly- never has been. Any man worth his salt will take the time to get to know a person before deciding whether or not to go out with her.

For the record- there are PLENTY of ugly thin women out there. ; )

[–] WalkAwayRenee 17 years ago

I knew an overweight girl whose boyfriend was as thin as she was heavy. He was not gorgeous, just average, but still. Her weight wasn't a problem as far as he was concerned. And it is not just about weight. There are plenty of couples out there where one person is better looking than the other.

[–] benji9000 13 years ago

In my own opinion....an ugly thin chick is wayyyy worse than a pretty overweight girl. Because the thin girl will always be unattractive but the overweight, pretty girl can lose weight.

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[–] FireySpectre 16 years ago

MISINFORMEDgoldstein wrote:

"In the real world that would never happen. I'm sorry, but it's true."

HAHAHAHA! You don't get out much, do you? I'm sorry, but that's NOT true.

Please, please, please come visit my neighborhood. Also, allow me to introduce you to my mother. Then, we'll visit one of my old friends; Karl. He's gorgeous (think Vince Neil back in his prime) and he's married to.... a chubby geek girl whose wardrobe consists mostly of fleece jogging attire. Oh, and she wears glasses. Real plain looking. He *used* to be with a skinny, kinda skanky-looking rocker chick type. A few years later, he dumped her for the geek.

[–] sef11-1 15 years ago

It does and can happen. My husband and I are a perfect example. I weight in at about 215 lbs, and am 5 4. So, I am somewhat short. My husband is a very attractive man. He does weigh more than me, but most of his weight is in his height of 6 4, and not his stomach.

WE have been married for 9 years now, in fact, we just celebrated our 9th wedding Anniversary 2 weeks ago. We are still very happy.

We are now going strong, at 10 1/2 years. on 1/21/2017, it will be 11 years!

[–] RunTheWorld 15 years ago

You need to get out of the house and stop watching TV, you see men with larger sized women all the time. Like someone said, it's fairly common now, in the REAL world.

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[–] HansGruber88 15 years ago

yes, i see a lot of good looking men with overweight women. really, stop being so shallow. not just overweight women, but even homely women. i've known some unattractive women who had men attracted to them like magnets because they had sparking personalities.

[–] Ada_Inma 15 years ago

It may happen, but the way it was portrayed in the movie,it is absurd.In real life, any person would have freaked out about Grace being constantly around,so many times and how she was always forcing the situation,talking or introducing herself,and it was stupid how Rob ended up visiting Grace when he was drunk and how he accepted to be there, with a unknow woman with God knows what kind of intentions..Any person would have run..The whole plot was pretty absurd and unreal.

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[–] egoangel18 14 years ago

Totally agree with op.

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[–] Nocgirl72 13 years ago

VERY cute movie and yes, this does not happen much in the real world. Grace was not chubby..she was 100 lbs overweight. A gorgeous guy probably would not date a girl this heavy. There is a difference between curvy and obese. Some women look GREAT carrying a few extra lbs...but Grace was very overweight although sweet, kind, funny and probably a terrific lady, most guys like Rob would not be attracted to her which is a little sad.

[–] faycinacroud 13 years ago

I don't think you mean to be, but your response is bigoted as all get out. So there is a weight cut off limit where people can no longer be attractive to others? Ugh! What a dreadful way to think!
I have a cousin who weighs nearly 300 pounds, not that it makes a difference. Her husband is this skinny Norwegian fellow and they are mad for each other. They have been married for 9 years. Before my cousin's husband dated her, he was dating a "perfect" woman who looked like a supermodel. He is not a "chubby chaser."
Why did he choose the "more than 100 pounds overweight" gal over the "hot" one?
Simple--he liked her personality a lot better.
He did break up with the "hot" girl before he started dating my cousin. He's a decent guy, not the sort who sneaks around on people.

[–] jnic7594 11 years ago

It happens. I have a family friend here, and he dated and then later married a larger woman. He, himself, was gorgeous. I'm not saying she was ugly, but I think she was pushing 250 pounds or more while he was very athletic. They are still married by the way, and they have been for over 20 years. Looks aren't everything. Some people know and understand the importance of a good heart over what a person looks like on the outside. Of course, this kind of attitude is becoming less frequent these days. Our society has become more and more superficial over the years.

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