Damicomark, as a lifetime athlete who competed on local, state, college, and military levels, and as a parent of a fantastic baseball player, I cannot disagree with you enough about your statement that kids are not forced to play sports. Many kids I played with did so to gain the attention of a parent or because the older sibling played, and thus he or she was forced to as well. They sure were forced to play, especially if they wanted approval from the parent, and the parent in this situation was almost always vicariously living through the children or was worried his ego would be bruised if the kid was not honored in the community as an athlete.
One of my friends in high school only played one particular sport because she was forced to play a sport every season, and she was an excellent athlete. I also saw kids play with my son who were forced to play a sport as well, and on the high school level. I saw other kids cry on the field because of the way their parents treated them, and I saw many kids embarrassed of their parents' behavior.
I do not know what levels you played on, and I do not want to make assumptions, but it is possible that you either had an idyllic childhood or did not live in an area like the one in the movie, where sports were gods. Sadly, we did at times. We watched Western Washington Little League umpires change the outcome of games at the state level because of home-field preferences. We saw district level games affected by dishonest scorekeeping and coaching in Kentucky, which was the worst place I'd imagine returning to with children for baseball, regardless of the accolades the place gathered.
Sure, we saw many happy kids and decent parents, but I can attest that kids are indeed forced to play, and that parents who have not moved on in their own lives (or communities with good-old boy attitudes) ruin sports for kids. They do turn the high school football game into a life-and-death situation.
I offer to you the ultimate proof that these kids are given way too much credit and god-like statuses in the Steubenville rape case. Football players took advantage of a passed-out 16 year-old girl, posted pictures of their sexually assaulting her on the internet, and laughed about it the next day. A person online during the time caught all the evidence, tracked it, and reported it, and many of the citizens of the city sent death threats to the girl and the woman who recorded the evidence. Even the coach, who found out about it, tried to cover it up. Why? Because many Ohio and Pennsylvania places (Steel Valley) idolize football, and the accused were football players.
Maybe instead of our "quitting the hate," you should consider that you are overtly nostalgic and are not fairly assessing what can happen when adults have no lives and try to take over those of their children.
And yes, it was hard for me to let go of the ball when I had kids, but I discovered scorekeeping, which is awesome.
The gene pool could use a little chlorine......
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