I like the movie and the performances, but I think it's creepy how light-hearted and carefree they treat their infidelity.
shareI agree with you. I saw this movie when it first came out and I was mid-20's. I saw it in a different way than I see it now some 30 years later.
shareI kinda thought that as well. Watch Fatal Attraction before this and it feels different.
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Thanks Vincent. I'm glad somebody else understands my sentiments.
Another movie (a VERY GOOD movie) that makes light of adultery is "A Touch of Class."
...and don't get me started on "The English Patient"!
P.S. I'm not a prude and I realize these are just movies!
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You are correct "A Touch of Class" is with George and Glenda -- the latter winning an Oscar for her performance. (Soundtrack, by the way, kicks fanny!)
It's too bad there isn't some sort of a website where people could go to discuss movies.
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Sometimes you don't meet the person you truly love until you've already married. But by then you have children and responsibilities. You don't walk away from that. You just have to endure as much as you can. In the meantime, there's not reason to deny yourself love.
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This is going to sound terrible but it's very true:
I was 27 and unmarried. I met a guy and we hit it off. I loved him. 15 years and 4 kids later, we're very different people. People change. It's a fact of life. You can't tell me that the same things that intrigued you 15 years ago, still intrigue you today.
So 15 years ago, when we talked about our future, it included a cute bungalow, a farm and lots of animals. Today, we live a sterile, oversized, three story home in the city. He wants to watches television all day and I hide in a trashy novel. We don't "get" each other anymore and it's a very lonely existence for both of us. I used to love him, he used to love me. But just like people's political and religious views change, so can their friendships. I'm sure there are people you used to be close to whom you no longer are.
But we have children and responsibilities to them. Neither of us is going to walk away from that. But at the same time, how much good are we doing them by being depressed and non-existent? Sometimes meeting another person is just what someone needs to recharge their soul and make them feel alive again.
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Such great insight from someone named HogCock.
"I will not go down in history as the greatest mass-murderer since Adolf Hitler!" - Merkin Muffley
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I don't think their relationship was deep enough to endure day to day life. It was the thrill and mystery of the clandestine meeting that kept it alive all those years.
I guess it's like looking at clouds. You see one thing and I see another. Peace.
Adultery treated lightly? Are you kidding? These two agonize over it for over two hours!
I think you missed the point. The affair these people have is secondary to their own awakening. They learn to find themselves because of the times they spend together. Being together for one weekend every year seems to bring them closer to their spouses. They get to share everything they love and hate about their spouses with one another and then return to them feeling renewed.
Deception and lying is never right. But George confesses that his wife knew for over ten years and never told him. It was a different time and it's what people did back then to stay together. People divorce much easier these days.
Well said! It was a different time -- and we're not exactly at a peak of human perfection in our own time right now, either. At least these peopel wer ehonest with each other.
And in any case, the adultery is a literary conceit, if you will, to chart the changes & growth of both individuals & the culture over 25 years.
Lets not forget about Bridges Of Madison County. I love this movie, but lets not forget, still adultery.
shareI'm watching this right now and saying the same thing to myself. I guess I want to like it more, but it's also too stagy, which makes the stars come off like they're overacting at times.
At any rate, they may agonize over it for the entire film, but the treatment still seems cavalier. Maybe it's just that damn song playing over and over again. But it's one catchy song.