A Strong Word Against This Film
Okay. First of all ... should you see this film? Is it entertaining?
Yeah. Its quality is there, and others here will tell you it is a film with lots of marital comedy and clever jokes and a good story. Classic Hollywood.
Now that that is out of the way ...
A short story -- this movie was based on a short story. I was made to read the short story while in school.
[Warning: spoilers for short story] A man returns to rural Ireland after having spent a decade or so in America. He buys a place, falls in love with a girl and marries her, but makes an enemy of her brother, a jerk who acts like a bully, and who not only refuses to pay all her dowry, but hounds the guy and shames him in front of the people of the town. The guy's response ... is not to physically fight back. He's had enough of fighting, is a kind of pacifist, and prefers to just ignore the insults. Naturally, everyone in town (including his new bride) suspects he is a coward. After all, the bullying brother is a much bigger man. But, eventually, the guy DOES have to fight, and he surprises everyone by skillfully, professionally, and quickly beating the brother unconscious. Only then does the reader find out that this returning Irishman had been a professional prizefighter in America, under the name of "Tiger Kelvin". He had never been afraid of this bully, knowing all the time that he could clean up the floor with him, but really and truly had become a gentle peace-loving "Quiet Man" because he really was tired of fighting.
This story ... it helped shape me. I saw that real men were not so because they could beat people up. Real "strength" would result in gentleness, not bluster. And a good fighter might be so out of skill, even if he was not the biggest man in the room.
Okay? Now ....
A movie -- this short story became a movie.
[Warning: movie spoilers] A big man, Sean, returns to rural Ireland, buys a place, falls in love and marries, but her brother is a bully and hates him and refuses to pay the dowry. Sean prefers to let it all roll off his back, having gotten the girl he wanted, but the girl, the bully, and the rest of the town, sees it differently. Pretty soon in the movie, we find out why he feels this way -- he killed a man, accidentally, while fighting in the ring in America, and he gave up his career and came home to put all that behind him. In the end, he finds that he DOES have to fight the bullying brother, just because that's the Irish way. So he does so -- it's an even match, since they're both big guys, and with the town cheering, and with enough alcohol, the fight is a fun and comic way to spend a big chunk of the movie. Even the clergy and the bishop think this all is great. And, guess what, the brother and Sean start to like each other, and Sean's wife loves them both dearly, now that they've been fighting. After the fight is over, well, all the bad blood is gone and everyone is friends! The brother actually is not a bully, and now he's going to marry the woman that didn't like him before!
Okay? Or not okay?
I remember lots of movies in which the "hero" solves all the problems with his fists. And it helped that the hero was a big guy with powerful right jabs and left hooks. And it turned out that enemies would always feel friendly about each other after they'd fought it out.
After all, that's the way it is in real life? Right? Hey. Right? . . . Look, not 'right'. When I was growing up, fights were only sometimes like that. The biggest kid in the area would rule, simply because he could beat any kids around. He did not turn noble, he did not become everyone's friend simply because he had nothing to fear from anyone. Instead, he would be the town jerk.
Score one for the original short story. While the movie is entertaining, it's a bad object lesson for youngsters in that respect.
The original short story said "Fighting should be avoided, although it is sometimes necessary." The movie said "Fighting is a fun and quick way to make friends out of your enemies." The first saying makes sense, now that I've lived a good chunk of my life. The second saying is idiotic.
Score another one for the original short story.
I liked the short story; the hero returned to Ireland because that's where he wanted to be, and kept his prizefighting to himself because he didn't need to talk about it. In this movie, he changed careers and countries because he could not face what he had done, running from a past he wanted to forget. (And it is strange that, after giving up fighting because of his fear that he hadn't known his own strength and might kill someone else, he quickly decided to fight again and enjoyed going all-out with his brother-in-law. Did he think his killing days were over, or did he no longer care if he killed again?)
There's more I could say, but it all boils down to Hollywood, having to beef a short story into movie length AND produce a happy ending for all involved, actually turning a good story's premise upside down and backwards.
So, "Fighting good!" according to this movie, and "Giant", and "Fight Club". But not according to the original "The Quiet Man".
My advice: Enjoy the film, but keep the above in mind. Let your kids see it, but make sure they understand that a film is a film.