Did anybody happen to notice the sign on the wall behind the counter in the diner, "Tipping is Un-American Keep your change" ?
I recall how Rudy Vallée made a similar comment to Claudette Colbert in "The Palm Beach Story," (1942).
I was wondering if there was a time in America's past when that was the prevailing attitude toward tipping. Nowadays, everybody expects tips, but back then, maybe it was considered demeaning?
“Ain't you heard, lady? Money is like manure. It's only good when you spread it around." — The Spikes Gang
My interest was piqued as well, so I found this on the internet...it seemed the best answer, and seemed most logical. Like anything on the net, it may be all or partially wrong, so take it with a grain of salt if you like:
******************************************************************************* "There was an active anti-tipping movement in the U.S. in the early 20th century. James Surowiecki mentioned it in an article about tipping in the New Yorker:
William R. Scott, in his 1916 polemic “The Itching Palm,” described the tip as the price that “one American is willing to pay to induce another American to acknowledge inferiority”; Gunton’s Magazine labelled the custom “offensively un-American,” arguing that workers here should seek honest wages “instead of fawning for favors.” The anti-tipping campaigns were so effective that six states actually banned the practice. *******************************************************************************
Now, of course, in what was possibly yet another allowance to business owners (assuming wait staffs did once make enough of a salary to live on. I don't know if they ever did, but if people didn't think tipping was necessary maybe they were paid a living wage...) eatery owners are allowed to pay waiters and waitresses sub-minimum wages, with the understanding tips will make up any shortfalls.
I take no major issue with the way tips work - FOR PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY PROVIDE THE SERVICE. Actual waiters and waitresses have to become very good at their jobs in order to thrive. It's a skill, IMHO. But this stuff with counterpersons requesting tips when I'm travelling to the establishment, walking right up to the counter, and bringing it home to eat, I do not believe in, and generally do not feel any pressure to tip. If they don't make enough money, I can sympathize, but that's an issue for them to take up with their employer. To me, THAT'S un-American, if anything is.
I'm not trying to Mr. Pink you, counterpersons, but tipping for walk-up takeout is basically just asking me to pay extra for my food.
"How do you feel?" "Like the Kling-Klang King of the Rim-Ram Room!"
Yeah, I'm pretty ambivalent about tipping, too. I totally concur with your attitude towards not wanting to tip for take-out or buffet/self serve food, because there wasn't much waiter "service" involved, if any. I think a modest tip for good table service is in order, and the bigger the table (i.e., the more hassle for the waiter) the bigger the tip should be.
My problem stems from the fact that I typically dine solo, and I never order "complicated" meals, so often times I question why I must feel some sort of moral obligation to add 15 or even 20 percent to my bill for what amounts to some guy or gal bringing me a plate with food on it, nothing more. What's the big deal? I mean, it's not like they suffered excessive physical or mental abuse in bringing me that plate of food, now, is it? lol But when you have a big table of four or more people, all wanting (or demanding) different things and creating a real load for the waiter, then I think the "head" of that table should make sure that the waiter gets a good tip.
"How do you feel?" "I feel a whole lot more like I do right now than I did just a while ago."
I have no problem tipping my server 15%-20% or more for really great service. That being said, I will -NEVER- put money in the tip jar of a 'certain' coffee establishment. Handing me a cup is not work and does not entitle someone to a tip.
One reason for tipping today in the US is that most wait staff no longer make minimum wage - actually the minimum wage for tipped workers has not increased in over 20 years. It is expected that the tips make up the difference - now about around $5 gap/hour.
I thought the sign odd too, and later Betty Davis's character makes a direct reference to the sign. It did seem that she thought a tip was kind of patronizing, and early on one of those guys buying a meal literally throws a coin at her. We don't have the minimum wage law yet and perhaps working people felt they had to make their own way? On the other hand, I do remember that a trucker in "The Grapes of Wrath" leaves a large tip at a restaurant counter after seeing that one of the Joads could not afford the little kid some candy. The waitress did not think it wrong even given she knew what it was left for.