I told her no, I wouldn't help her, and if she did this, I would never forgive her. I'm sure that goes against proper suicide-prevention techniques, but what did I know?
In the course of my career, I was required to take Suicide Intervention and Grief Counseling classes. During a break in the first SI class, I shared with the trainer that an unusual suicide threat had happened with my daughter. She had been struck down (literally over 18 hours) with a rare neurological disease that left her completely paralyzed the first day. After she survived the first 72 hours when the neurosurgeon told us that she would die, she was in ICU for a month and then transferred to a wonderful rehab hospital down the street.
She had been moved midday, which is always challenging. She still had 100% loss of everything except her throat working well for swallowing and speaking and her eyes being able to function completely. My job at the time was total commission, so no backup wages for time off, even vacation, so I needed the hours. When I arrived in the evening, the first thing she said was that she was not going to live, that she would will herself to die because she could not stand being like this for the rest of her life.
Having worked in the helping profession in several areas, I had expected this to happen, especially knowing my daughter. I asked questions about why she had made the decision so soon before her nerves began to regenerate and asked if the pain meds were not effective, and then if it was because she was afraid this would be it forever? When she said "yes" to everything and that it was her decision to quit, my answer was similar to yours, Milemass,
I told her how much I loved her, always had, and always would; that I would be with her every step of the way however scary it got, yet I completely believed God was going to heal her so she could walk out or the hospital. While I had no idea how long that would take, I promised to be there everyday. However, if she wanted to quit because she did not have either the faith in herself and in her strength, I respected her decision, but I would not be able to support her because it would be too painful and break my heart to watch her quit.
I told her that I loved her and would be praying for her in making this decision because so many people were sending their love, thoughts, prayers, energy, and time in earnest desire for her to heal. (Prior to her transfer, I had a conversation with her father and his wife about this possibility,) He arrived later the same evening and the conversation was repeated.
The next day he went to see her first thing in the morning and she greeted him with: "Well, I have decided to live and I am going to walk out of this hospital." Four and a half very difficult months later, she was able to walk from a wheel chair to the car (about four feet) and was in our patient rehab for 18 months before being released.
I had shared this story with the trainer as being another option when the person is well known to you, He looked at the man who was with us and then at me, replied tersely: "You were completely wrong and ineffective." Then he turned back to the forms they had been viewing, dismissing me. His loss.
My daughter was so glad that she made that leap of faith in herself, her family, friends, strangers, and God. She had many adventures, added to the lives of countless others, and lived with continual pain. God gave her almost twenty years more, for which we were all grateful. The choice to live can be the bravest decision we make, when that choice means walking away from dying as the only alternative.
When Sherlock spoke those words to Faith, I got goosebumps from the strength of his message. People need to hear the words. The promise of being with the person if s/he chooses life is extremely powerful. And never easy.
The Final Problem was very rich with family issues and I could relate at lesser levels to several. The only holes that I saw in the episode were those in the hearts of many characters. What a blessing to see The Final Healing with the Holmes family together for the first time in decades.
A Checkered Life speaks of myriad diverse adventures being the rewards of endless curiosity.
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