Although I cannot help you identify Sasha's race, as I myself came on here to do when I stumbled across your post, here's my opinion on your other question:
I do not think it is wrong because you can not help who you are attracted to, and guys usually pay particular attention to girls when they turn fifteen, especially when they look and act so much older like Sasha. I only think it's wrong if a guy's above eighteen and knowingly pursues females below eighteen because they're really just girls. Yes, most mature faster than boys in terms of intelligence and discipline, but science dictates males reach their sexual prime in their mid-20s while women reach theirs in late 30s-early 40s. No matter how confident a girl seems, sexuality is confusing because it's empowering and yet exploited on a daily basis; the double-standard sometimes makes us wish we didn't have it.
Based on my own experience, many family members, their friends, and strangers told my parents that I would be gorgeous when I grew up. Well, right before I entered high school, I lost most of the baby fat from my face and developed an hourglass figure -- combine that with the fact that I'd always been on the tall side and I could certainly pass for two years older or so. However, I did wear braces on the top and bottom, so those who spoke to me could pretty much tell I was a young teenager. Now, this is when I started to be looked at a "certain" way from guys my age or twice older. At first, it was kind of exciting because I'd always been very shy and felt as if my attractiveness made it easier for people to like me. It seemed like a good icebreaker, in the sense that people might approach me for the wrong reason(s) but then end up liking me for the right one(s).
But to be honest with you, and each girl handles it differently, it became a little frightening for me after a year of this excessive attention. I enjoyed it thoroughly from time to time, but being a middle-class kid in honors and AP classes made me fiercely studious and practical, so despite desire, the only outside distractions I allowed myself were friendhsips. I didn't want to date any high schoolers because most were immature and the only ones that weren't hung out with THE most immature ones. And yet, I didn't want to date collegiates because logic told me that if they were interested in someone my age, then they'd most likely break up with me once I got older (18 or so). Also, I've always had a very poor relationship with my father, so psychology told me I'd just be acting on my "daddy issues" if I dated even older men.
Thusly, from fifteen to seventeen, I had no problem questioning men that expressed interest in me. I asked them how old they thought I was before they approached me and subsequently why they still pursued me when they found out I was "illegal". Most assumed my actual age, others the legal age (but I suspect 9/10 that was meant to either put me at ease or feed my ego) and I received an array of interesting answers for the latter. Most were harmless, while some immediately creeped me out, but I'm a pretty good judge of character and it was a nice way to weed out the jerks. The men I enjoyed speaking to the most were the honest ones that told me they found me beautiful but admitted they also liked me for my intellect, humor, and personality. I almost always gave them a chance because those are traits you'd respect a woman for, so if they accepted me as a woman rather than a teenager, then it was almost certain they were attracted to me as opposed to my age.
On the verge of turning twenty-one, this is no longer a struggle for me because I am at an age where men might still attempt to take advantage of my youth, but I've attained so much good fortune in my personal life that I can easily rip them off like band-aids. I am grateful for those experiences because they forced me to create my own identity and discover strengths I didn't know I had. Girls like Sasha will be beautiful women soon enough, and it's perfectly fine to admire their faces and bodies, but please don't act on those urges too soon. They still need time to grow as people, to discover their own interests and work through some insecurities. Besides, if you consider them hot now, imagine having a girlfriend whose inner beauty matches that of her outward! Can you think of a more appealing scenario than that? If you've taken the time to read this, thank you!
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