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Why does everyone feel like they have to get married and have kids?

posted 4 years ago by MovieBuff224 (5053)
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I totally understand for people who genuinely WANT those things, but you and I both know plenty of people who do it because they feel like it’s what you’re supposed to do by a certain age and are either unhappily married or divorced. Me personally, as selfish as it sounds, rather enjoy doing whatever I want whenever I want. However, I realize this will eventually get old and I will get lonely, and based on how much I enjoy my nephews I’m fairly certain I want a family of my own. It’s just strange how almost everyone rushes to get married by 30-35 due to societal pressures.

[–] TexasJack (12516) 4 years ago

Biological imperative.

[–] captainbucky (15252) 4 years ago

Texas Jack I got some new records for you to spin. Can I slap these fat beats on the counter ?

[–] actionkamen (23176) 4 years ago

Genetics. People who breed obviously have more offsprings than people who don't want to have kids. Thus more people were born with the instict to breed that the ones that do not.

[–] captainbucky (15252) 4 years ago

Why are you telling me that

[–] actionkamen (23176) 4 years ago

It's MovieBuff's thread. It's only fair.

[–] captainbucky (15252) 4 years ago

Can I rant too ?

[–] actionkamen (23176) 4 years ago

Maybe.

[–] captainbucky (15252) 4 years ago

Maybe no

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

I think society pressures people to get married (or at least have a committed relationship) and have kids. If you are a single adult, people sometimes assume something is wrong with you. Getting married and/or having kids is thought of as the normal or grown up thing to do.

[–] MovieBuff224 (5053) 4 years ago

Yeah exactly

[–] Mrmojo4700 (21544) 4 years ago

Because those can be some of the best experiences of your life.

[–] Quasimodo (16388) 4 years ago

And/or the worst.

[–] Mrmojo4700 (21544) 4 years ago

And yes, that too.

[–] howgamer (3938) 4 years ago

Everyone doesn't. I know a couple of people that don't want to get married. Know even more people that don't want to have kids, but do seek companionship. I think for some people, it kind of just happens. You're friends with this person and an attraction grows and you realize you enjoy their company so much that you want to be with them forever.

I do feel that societal norms pressure people to get married and have kids, but it is also in our biology to seek out mates.

[–] Stratego (30583) 4 years ago

Unless people tell you they feel pressured, you shouldn't assume they feel that way.

[–] Gd5150 (11779) 4 years ago

it’s a societal construct and for a good reason.

People who are married are more stable and happier.

Kids from 2 parent homes consisting of a man and a woman are more successful and happier.

Yes there are exceptions but anecdotal evidence is irrelevant.

The simple fact is being part of a team is less stressful and more inspiring. Facing life alone is much more difficult.

[–] Artisan (3464) 4 years ago

In Australia you often get "Minority" kids doing better at school and I put that down largely to these "minority" groups maintaining traditional husband and wife marriages where even if both work there is discipline instilled usually by the father. So yes, I believe that if you are going to raise a family, you need male and female parents.

[–] djj93312 (89) 4 years ago

You claim that there are exceptions, but you don't offer any evidence to support that your position is the norm that there can be exceptions to.

[–] Debsy (3) 4 years ago

i think you will find in the future people will choose singleton

[–] Who (5146) 4 years ago

Family elders push that scheme.