Wait....women don't like being called ma'am? - General Discussion Discussion

[–] Ghaleon (606) 6 years ago

Calling them ma'am makes them feel old and possibly like a spinster.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Really? I only met one person who really disliked being called ma'am...it was bigjackrutgers if I recall
Correctly...he said it was misogynistic.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

where i grew up- nobody says ma'am. (NE America)
Was called maam the first time in the Florida pan handle and was shocked, "I look like a Ma'am?" So yea, it felt wrong, I was young. Right now I'm in the southwestern US, and I'm totally used to it now. Depends where you live where you from.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

i'd love to be called sugar tits.

in private.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Well obviously in private...you can't just say "hey sugar tits...how they hangin?" out in public! But if you did...the answer would be...sweetly😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

just leave out the 'hangin' part.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Good point😂👍

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[–] actionkamen (23176) 6 years ago

"Hey sugar tits... how they?"

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Hoe art thou, sugar tits?

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (77996) 6 years ago

Haha!
Nice:)

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

You're just now finding this out? 😂

Hate it. Hate the sound of the word, and yes, makes me feel ancient. The first time someone called me ma'am, I was 20, and so shocked! He wasn't a southerner, so it wasn't that either 😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Gimme a break! I only found out about sugar boobies last week😂 you see what I did there right...boobies😉

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

Then we're even. I just now learned about sugar boobies 😂.

I see what you did there, you!

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

😇

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

i hate the way cops say it. There's a tone of derision.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I hate the way cops say anything😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

true

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Except...gimme two powdered jellies...they deliver that with authority!😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

oh man, i would love a jelly donut about now.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Right?

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

I want one of those Polish jelly donuts you posted about! They look 😋

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Pączki...OMG!!! wait for Lent!!!

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

I just ran a search. My area is completely devoid of paczki 😡

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Oh yeah...Pittsburg...chicago...where ever hownos lives...has them year round...you West coasters might not even get them during lent...but GOOD GOD!

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

Some parts of the US get them year-round, even in parts of Canada, but we get none *ever*?

This is an injustice that needs to be addressed immediately!! (Seriously immediately. I'm totally craving one, or four.)

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Anti polish Tom foolery!

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

It's an outrage, an OUTRAGE, I tells ya!

(But seriously, I WANT SOME! What's in the filling?)

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Everything awesome! Blue berry ,strawberry ,raspberry ,apple ,lemon ,custard....more that I ant remember.
I go for blueberry powdered...but none really suck...maybe lemon...but somebody must like them😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Toronto Df. I will get me some of those donuts before too long.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I'll envy you.

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

I'll envy you even more than DF, because they aren't available here at all, any time of the year 😡

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[–] snepts (11123) 6 years ago

The Detroit area has LOTS of Poles (I want to say Polacks and not mean anything bad by it but ...), but I will admit my family didn't go in for much ethnic cuisine. We were very mainstream comfort food oriented.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Well if jelly donuts are comfort food...you been missing out😱

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[–] Ghaleon (606) 6 years ago

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WjUtoQaRfE0

Nothing beats a jelly-filled donut.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Can't argue with that!

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

First time someone called me sir...I said...finally! My white male entitlement has arrived!!! The kid told me I had toilet paper stuck to my pant leg😳

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

😂 That was a plus and a minus, all rolled into one!

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[–] ProductionNow (1072) 6 years ago

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

It does convey age. Look it up. Nor is it an equivalent to "sir," except in the southern states.

Yes, I'd rather someone call me nothing, and simply treat me as another human being. Manners aren't conveyed in forms of address, but the way one person treats another.

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[–] ProductionNow (1072) 6 years ago

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

You can think whatever you like. Guess what? I can too.

There are many women who dislike being called ma'am. Obviously, else this thread wouldn't exist. If you want to ignore that, and carry on referring to people in ways many of them dislike, that's up to you.

I prefer being courteous and respectful. Calling me "nothing" has nothing to do with being inarticulate. I don't call men "sir," either. No point to it. We all just human beings.

I'm not a millennial 😂

Sounds to me like you're the one who's outraged and looking for an argument. Look elsewhere.

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[–] ProductionNow (1072) 6 years ago

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

🙄

Not worth responding to, except to say you're not worth responding to 😂

Good luck with being such an angry person, who doesn't care about how others feel.

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[–] ProductionNow (1072) 6 years ago

since people are not serious abut the topic, then I will delete and move on.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

WOW! even by one side of the conversation...I can tell that went south😂
Now full disclosure...I sometis(could be always😉) say ma'am😱 I can't speak for others...but mine was my upbringing. And since posting I've observed how I use it. I've found I mostly use it as an answer....especially on the phone. Are you familiar with this part of town?...yes ma'am. Also I use it to be fun. Would you like another beer?...YES MA'Am!!! But I also use sir the same way😐 I find the age of the person has nothing to do with it....just my (evidently failed)attempt at being friendly😦 and as a big guy that can be intimidating...I find a smile and a friendly word to be helpful when meeting new or unfamiliar people. I also call children young men and ladies...so maybe I'm just hopelessly out of touch😂 don't get me started on holding doors😉

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

It did. Too bad, could have been a learning experience, but oh well.

I know there are quite a few people who call others "ma'am" and "sir," or "mister," because they were brought up to do that, especially in the south, including you. I think originally it was meant to be a sign of respect, but times change, dontcha know 😂

I'm totally down with people using "ma'am" ironically or in fun. I've done it too. Say a woman says something in a particularly authoritative way, I might answer "Yes, ma'am!" Or like with you ordering another beer or whatever. Or a friend, saying whatever where it seems like an appropriate and funny reply.

Same with "Yes, sir!" Usually just in fun.

I hold doors open for *everyone*. Their age or gender doesn't matter. To me it's just a courtesy.

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

Also, ma'am is just weird. It's an American contraction of Madam. Rhymes with spam and ham, not an attractive word 😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

HAM??? Nothing is sexier than HAM! Later I'll tell a story that proves it! Warning...you might lose some respect for me😉but not much😂

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

HAM is sexy? Who knew? 😂

Is SPAM sexy too??

I don't want to lose respect for you, but I'm not ruling out that it's possible 😂

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Canned meat is vile...even if it is supposedly spiced ham!
But ham is the very definition of sexy👍 at least for me in the 90s it was...story later😉

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[–] actionkamen (23176) 6 years ago

Miss or Mrs.

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[–] ProductionNow (1072) 6 years ago

Oh, but actionkaman, that will give the female a reason to say "don't call me Miss", I am married!". ..and on and on. Be grateful they address you at all.

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[–] actionkamen (23176) 6 years ago

Which is fine, I guess?

On the other hand, you can call women ma'am all right. If they don't like it so what? Sue you? It's not hate speech.

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[–] ProductionNow (1072) 6 years ago

I know, you're right

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[–] MovieManCin2 (26342) 6 years ago

Yeah, I also don't think they like being called Chick, Bumper Butt, Cheeky Monkey, Headlamps, Sweater Buster, Blossom Butt, Shmoopie, Winky Dink, Squirty Pants, Tinkerbell, Bubble Butt, Butter Lips, Cutie Patootie, Snickerdoodle, or Chunky Monkey.

Go figure.

PS You should make a video on this.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Top ten things broads hate to be called😂

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[–] MovieManCin2 (26342) 6 years ago

Oh yeah, I forgot broads. Thanks, feet!

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Oh shit! They don't like that either? They still like that's what she said jokes right? My god tell me that hasn't changed!

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[–] MIchiganJFrogg (-35) 6 years ago

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[–] MovieManCin2 (26342) 6 years ago

Okay then. Good to know. Thanks.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I see how you are! Come back after a coons age away...knowing ol Feets been missin ya...and not even the decency to offer a what's up...in my thread to boot! What am I to make of this shade you're throwing my way? Was it the age remarks...that MOD6 thing? Nick nack patti whack...throw this dog a bone!!!

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[–] MIchiganJFrogg (-35) 6 years ago

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I'm really glad you're bacK MJF!

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[–] Padeen (6459) 6 years ago

Did you hear about the psychopathic elementary school teacher who punished a 10 year old student for calling her "ma'am"

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6094879/Fifth-grade-boy-punished-calling-teacher-maam.html

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

My wife told me...ridiculous!

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[–] Catbookss (13664) 6 years ago

Never heard about it until now.

Tempest in a teacup.

The teacher didn't like being referred to as "ma'am" and told her class to not. She wasn't aware the student had an operation that had affected his memory, so when he referred to her that way anyway, she thought he was disrespecting her wishes.

A lack of information. Had she known, and that his parents had specifically instructed him to refer to women as ma'am, and men as sir, I can't imagine she'd have punished him in any way, because he *wasn't* trying to disrespect her wishes.

Even so, having him write both sides of a piece of paper with "ma'am" four to a line is hardly a horrible thing. Weird, yes, but not a big deal.

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[–] PeteRose (2893) 6 years ago

I hate being called sir. Like, I don't have a butler, I rarely wear a suit, I'm not a man of nobility, and I'm definitely not better than anyone. Often times I will get called sir by a retail worker who is just trying to be cordial, but it feels super weird. All of this is made even weirder by the fact that I'm only 30. When I was 22 I got called sir by an 18 year old. When I was 22 I looked like I was 17. This is madness. I can understand not wanting to be called ma'am.

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[–] snepts (11123) 6 years ago

As with ma'am (see below), I blurt out "Thankyousir," all the time. Doesn't have anything to do with age, but different people will make small gestures, often holding a door open only because they happen to be in front of me and have the door handle in their hand, that sort of stuff. If some guy or kid performs some service for me (air the tires, find an item for me) i'll give him a brisk and friendly "Thankyousir." Anyone who might be annoyed by this is taking life too seriously.

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[–] PeteRose (2893) 6 years ago

You're incredibly obnoxious.

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[–] snepts (11123) 6 years ago

I will admit, just for fun if someone calls me "Sir" I will state "Sir was my Father. I'm ****"

Then there was the time a convenience store worker (not an American native, btw) cheerfully referred to me as "Young Man."
While I try to be as youthful as I can, I'm almost 60 years old. When I was checking out I jokingly said, "If you are making fun of me by calling me Young Man, I'll punch you in the face !" I waved my little fist at him, smiling the whole time.
He tapped his chest and said, "You're young at heart aren't you? Aren't you?" Seemed like a nice young fellow with a good head on his shoulders. I like when people make mundane transactions a little more fun. I do it all the time.

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[–] Frogarama (12942) 6 years ago

Do they like "Be a doll and fetch me a coffee"?

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[–] thewaitress (1616) 6 years ago

only if you smack them on the ass when they walk away.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Oh I like your answer better😉

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Of course they do. Who wouldn't want to be called doll face?

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[–] thewaitress (1616) 6 years ago

Eh, doesn't bother me. I'll answer to a whistle haha. Working in retail though, this is something I say constantly. Only every once in awhile will someone crack up or tell me Don't call me Ma'am, call me Sheila or whatever their name happens to be.

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[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

As long as I don't get called an asshole..I'm ok👍😉

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[–] thewaitress (1616) 6 years ago

I hear ya. I wouldn't say it unless I meant it, in your case though that would be never.